EK4D: Horniness or Transcendence?

first of let me say that i grew up in a culture where marriage and monogamy are sacred. so with my own social programming, my answer to this question would have to be a qualified NO.

i agree with a what the others have stated above. one-to-one relationship (married or not married) is already draining (and rewarding) enough. it's complex. it's double the shadows and exponential the number of people that get affected (e.g. friends, families, neighbors, the works). relationships don't exist in a vacuum you know. now add another (or more) person into the mix and you've got yourself a reality TV show.

another thing is, from a male perspective, it's really really really freakin' hard to know whether it's horniness or transcendence that's driving our urges to have “sacred” sex with another person outside of devoted relationships. i mean, c'mon! let's be honest here, the power of lust is so strong that even “second-tier” people can be captivated by it until it's too freakin' late.

as for polyamorous relationships, God bless those people who are emotionally stable and psychologically developed enough in finding other people who are also emotionally stable and psychologically developed enough and at the same time, willing to engage in polyamorous relationships. like i said, finding the right person is hard enough. finding the right polyamorous person is like exponentially harder. so good luck.

as for me, i prefer monogamous relationships for the following reasons:

- it's socially acceptable and more stable especially if you plan on having a family

- it's actually harder to maintain in the long run. um, imagine being commited to one person (for a lifetime) while hot people are running around and doing a lap dance on you.

- monogamy takes more guts and discipline my friends. that's why divorce rates are high (a lot are due to cheating). i'm all for reliquishing the marriage if one partner can't keep up with monogamy. but don't dare hide it in the pretense of “sacred” cheating. be ballsy enough to admit that you don't have the hots for your partner anymore or that you're just a horny bastard :)

- monogamy is in the Bible. LOL. just kidding. actually i just wonder how come polygamous relationships are allowed in cultures where women's rights are not as recognized as in other cultures.

- i'm in love.

that is all.

P.S.  “(Is there some sort of rule about changing your name to David when you become an Integral sex therapist?)”

i don't know. but i think that the last name you'd want to have is David if you plan to have a career as Integral Sex Therapist. everyone knows the story of King David and how his horniness got him and his kingdom in trouble :)